You were together a long time. You thought it would last.
Now, you’re either on your own again, or it looks like you will be soon.
You’re probably struggling with some pretty negative emotions, and on top of all that, there’s the practical stuff to deal with: the everyday-ness of life that just goes on and on…... Work. Money. Appointments. Food.
At the (possible) end of a significant relationship, it's almost certain you're having to deal with some challenging issues and emotions.
You've tried various things, maybe even sought professional help. And family and friends can be a blessing, but let's face it, those traditional 'methods' don't really work at all.....
'Drown your sorrows' - and then feel worse .
' Treat is as a learning experience' - yes, but right now?
'Plenty of other fishes' - really?
The best you seem able to do is be distracted. In your heart you feel stuck, with only ‘time will heal’ for comfort.
Thankfully, it doesn’t have to be that way.
The help you really need spans at least two fundamental aspects of your life, simultaneously:
A. the practical stuff - like looking after family, carrying with work, money, the home etc., etc. etc….
B. your own inner world– the hurt you feel and what you think about, perhaps you blame yourself, perhaps you've had your confidence shattered
You feel trapped because you can’t get on top of A when B is so new and alarming.
And you can’t sort B out because of the demands of A.
The fact of the matter is you need THREE qualities in your life, and you need them quickly:
emotional balance - so you're not overwhelmed by hurt, lack of confidence, self-blame or anger
clarity - so you can see your true priorities and make good, appropriate choices
purpose - so you can build a fulfilling life again, grounded and proud