You were together a long time. You thought it would last.

Now, you’re either on your own again, or it looks like you will be soon.

You’re probably struggling with some pretty negative emotions, and on top of all that, there’s the practical stuff to deal with: the everyday-ness of life that just goes on and on…... Work. Money. Appointments. Food.

At the (possible) end of a significant relationship, it's almost certain you're having to deal with some challenging issues and emotions.

You've tried various things, maybe even sought professional help. And family and friends can be a blessing, but let's face it, those traditional 'methods' don't really work at all.....

'Drown your sorrows' - and then feel worse .

' Treat is as a learning experience' - yes, but right now?

'Plenty of other fishes'  - really?

The best you seem able to do is be distracted. In your heart you feel stuck, with only ‘time will heal’ for comfort.

Thankfully, it doesn’t have to be that way.

The help you really need spans at least two fundamental aspects of your life, simultaneously:

A. the practical stuff - like looking after family, carrying with work, money, the home etc., etc. etc….

B. your own inner world– the hurt you feel and what you think about, perhaps you blame yourself, perhaps you've had your confidence shattered 

You feel trapped because you can’t get on top of A when B is so new and alarming.

And you can’t sort B out because of the demands of A.

The fact of the matter is you need THREE qualities in your life, and you need them quickly:

  1. emotional balanceso you're not overwhelmed by hurt, lack of confidence, self-blame or anger

  2. clarityso you can see your true priorities and make good, appropriate choices

  3. purpose - so you can build a fulfilling life again, grounded and proud

With these in place, it’s much easier to build the life you want out of what perhaps right now feels more like debris.

Hi, I’m Derek Hassack. I have over twelve years professional experience helping people deal successfully with the challenges of relationship break-down or break-up.

As one client described it “through working with Derek I was able to get back my confidence, think reflectively, and start to move on with my life”

Any personal crisis can also be a source of transformation and growth - and that’s what my clients experience.

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