I've been working to help men and women deal effectively with the demands of relationship breakup and separation for over 14 years.
Over that time, I've found that the various ingredients required to journey successfully out of a long-term relationship have been distilled into 3 key principles.
These 3 Principles underpin all my work with clients:
- finding and sustaining emotional balance
- getting really clear about priorities and choices
- building towards a purposeful life beyond the relationship
All of my work - including all the free content that you receive as a subscriber - is rooted in one or more of these Principles.
The service I provide falls into two broad categories:
free products - via this website, content for subscribers, social media content and other written materials
paid-for products - including the various 1-2-1 and Couples Programmes
It's my absolute commitment that the service I offer in both categories is as effective for my clients as possible.
How the Individual and Couples Programmes work
There's only really ONE essential ingredient of the paid-for programmes: talking. Beyond that it's difficult to describe what you'll experience as my client.
In every Consultation, I draw upon the full range of professional expertise and personal experience at my disposal in order that you get what you need to progress - however you want to define that.
I'm a qualified Life Coach, accredited by the International Coaching Federation. However I don't use the terms 'coach' or 'coaching' much to describe my work because I feel it's a) inadequate, and b) an easily misunderstood term.
The fact of the matter is that although coaching is central to what I do, and is partly what you will experience in the a Consultation, it's by no means ALL of what I do.
For example, I'm also qualified to an advanced level in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnosis, Time-line Therapy, Reconnective Healing, Educational Leadership and Management, and I'm a qualified lecturer in English Literature and Media Studies. At various points in my work with clients I draw upon each of these modalities (yes, even the English Literature sometimes!)
Therefore to define 'how I work' with clients is tricky. 'Coaching' doesn't really do it justice.
My professional mission is to help as many people as possible flourish in the wake of separation and divorce. To achieve that I draw upon all the expertise at my disposal, including my own personal life and relationship experience - which is also extensive.
Therefore there is no single methodology I work to, and I don't apply any particular theoretical doctrine or model. I draw upon many, or none of these things, depending on your requirements at the time.
To simplify: I deliver what you need. Your fundamental experience of a Consultation with me therefore will be that you will take from it what you most need.
The values that underpin all my work include:
- honesty and integrity
- tolerance and forgiveness
- a wide perspective on life
- being open to love
This is how one client described working with me:
“Although the sessions were at times challenging, they left me feeling encouraged, with a renewed sense of purpose and determination, and I have been able as a result to put into practice constructive habits that last. The sessions were profound but not 'heavy'; Derek's warmth and humanity meant they were relaxed and often laced with humour.
Derek's intent listening and intuition meant that he understood what I was trying to say, even when I was not able to be coherent; he often helped me to look at difficult situations from a fresh and positive perspective.
Because he himself is so direct, honest, yet totally non-judgemental, I felt totally safe and able to talk completely honestly and freely. At the same time he kept me on track, so I did not lose sight of what I wanted to achieve.
Derek's inherent integrity inspires trust and confidence; he also never forgets you are an individual." (Teresa B., West Sussex, UK)